Bold Intimacy™ is a relationship and embodied intimacy coaching practice founded by Dr. Robyn Bragg, PharmD and Somatic Sexologist, creator of the Bold Intimacy Method™. We help women reconnect with desire and rebuild intimacy in their relationships.

Where Did My Desire Go?

A 5-Minute Quiz for Women Who Want to Want Again

You used to feel like yourself. Somewhere in the last few years, that woman got harder to find, especially in your relationship. If desire has gone quiet, you might be blaming your hormones, your age, or your partner, and honestly, any of those things might be part of it. But the truth is usually more layered than that, and understanding it changes everything. This quiz will help you see what's actually getting in the way so you can stop guessing and start getting somewhere real.

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When you think about being intimate with your partner, what tends to come up for you first? *

Genuine interest, but something always seems to get in the way before it goes anywhere

A kind of pressure or dread that I can't quite put my finger on

Not much, honestly. I feel pretty flat when the subject comes up

A quiet sadness, because I remember wanting it and I'm not sure where that version of me went

How would you describe the way your body feels most of the time these days? *

Tense and wired, like I haven't been able to fully relax in longer than I can remember

Tired in a way that doesn't seem to improve no matter how much rest I get

Numb or disconnected, like I'm moving through my days on autopilot

Physically I'm fine, but emotionally I feel like I'm somewhere far away

When your partner initiates intimacy, what usually happens for you? *

I go along with it even when part of me isn't really there

I find a way to redirect or avoid it without having to say much

I freeze up and don't know what to say or do in the moment

I wish I could want it, but something in me just doesn't respond the way I'd like it to

How often do you feel like your own needs actually matter in your relationship? *

Sometimes, though I spend most of my energy keeping things smooth between us

Not very often. Adjusting to what works for everyone else has become second nature

I'm honestly not sure I know what my needs are anymore

I have some sense of what I need, but asking for it feels either risky or pointless

When did you last do something purely because it felt good to you, with no one else's comfort or needs in the picture? *

Fairly recently, actually

It's been longer than I'd like to admit

I genuinely can't remember

I wouldn't even know where to start looking for an answer to that

When you try to make sense of why your desire has changed, what do you find yourself thinking? *

It's probably hormones or just getting older

I'm too exhausted and overwhelmed for desire to have anywhere to live right now

Something in me feels wrong in a way I'm not sure can be addressed

I've spent so long giving to everyone else that there's simply nothing left over for this

If desire did come back, what would that actually mean for you? *

I think I'd finally feel like myself again

It might mean my relationship actually has somewhere to go

I'd be able to stop carrying the quiet feeling that something is permanently wrong with me

I want that, but I've stopped letting myself hope for it because the disappointment feels like too much

Where Did My Desire Go?

A 5-Minute Quiz for Women Who Want to Want Again

Please enter your name and email so that I can send you your results.

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